Who doesn't know it? No sense in sex anymore. Everyone experiences this from time to time. Of course there are now women who shout very loudly:“Well, I can't hear it!” I want to say to that:Girl, your time will come.
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The internet is already full of possible causes:relationship is not going well, there are arguments or he has been smelling like this lately. And so I know a few. The grind, a different time frame (he wants in the evening, you want in the morning), busy schedules and the resulting stress. Or hormonal; you are pregnant, or not, pms, pill, menopause et cetera ... Moreover, the 'new' has worn off after all these years. Whatever sex toys you purchase.
Even the traumatic experience chapter is unfortunately a fact. Of course, you wouldn't wish that on anyone and it goes too far to discuss here. That's where the prof.
So we are talking more about the no sex drive during the week. Supplemented with the possible also no sense in weekend sex sex. Similar style to:he wants a beard and you don't, so don't kiss. Because he, having been stubborn for years, keeps that beard growing. Or:he wants to lick extensively and you think:the ceiling needs to be whitened. And so much more plastic we can go even further.
However, I don't think that's the point. Because folks, let's be honest, how much more fun is it to have sex drive, instead of not having sex anymore? Yes ladies, (and gentlemen, because statistically you are in second place) … get to work! I'm not going to hand you a box of tricks, because I assume that you can figure out for yourself what pleases your partner.
And I'm not even talking about Fifty Shades of Gray. I'll stop there on page twelve. Or before. If that's really your thing, fine of course… good friends. Everything for the ultimate moisturizer, isn't it?
Incidentally, I would really like to tie my partner to the bed for a week! But that's more, because I just want to have some peace in the house and the wallpaper glue happens to run out.
Let's face it:why do men on dating sites send their tampeloeres full screen at you after 3 apps or so much earlier than they deem necessary? Young gentleman… you do know that all her friends are on the 'balloting committee' and also participate in selective meat inspection? Or is this strategically genetically thought through? So that there is more spread of seed, and thus reproduction options?
I quit. Apparently I still have the old-fashioned stamp and I don't think the term dripping is appropriate in this one.
Anyway, what ensures that 'that sentence' arises, which many a man and woman, who have ended up in the worn out phase, yearn for?
It's chemistry! If you no longer feel like sex, you miss the chemistry. There are all kinds of substances in your brain, substances that you sniff from the other person, for example. But also the setting, gestures, body language, voice, vibes, butterflies and a pinch of magic. An ultimate 'mix of'. Just see this every time at the right time, in the right blend, with the right person. Pretty difficult. Even if I do say so myself.
Is there still hope? Yes of course! You can (luckily), take a lover at any time. Rip off his disco underpants (don't pay too much attention, they won't be very functional in a moment) right behind the front door, with your heels still on. But you can - even if you are already equipped - get a little sexually stimulated by others. Eye contact with a casual passer-by, a nice dream, a friendly smile, a very nice compliment, or an arm on your shoulder.
It's the little things that matter. Cliché and therefore true.
Looking at you once -necessary to whiten the ceiling- is no drama, not even when you think of the food and the children. That's called multitasking. And moreover, he who does not honor the small, is not the great…. Oh no, or was it:who does not venture, does not win? Good, you get me.
Making sense by doing can help.
Above all, be honest. If acute vaginal dryness sets in, stop taking it. unroll. truste. Tomorrow is another day. Or next week. Or next month. And woe betide if he goes to buy you lube. Then throw that in the bin demonstratively, under the guise of:you better do your best. Thanks to my principled mother.
It is just as irritating to have to turn a cowardly Bifi into a spicy chorizo. Waste of time if you ask me. Take it or leave it. Rolling, kneading, biting, with skin, without skin, spice rub…. Hassle is libido-lowering!
This also includes:shower cubicle sex that is too small and pussy in a car. Doesn't matter which brand. And oh yes, thermostatic taps do get quite hot. If you end up against it with your back or another exposed body part… burn marks are also a distraction!
Wass ich noch zu sagen hätte:Flirt! Feel like a Goddess. Don't complain about that one extra roll of fat, but show your body proudly! Full and proud. Self-esteem and self-confidence (nice Scrabble word…) determine at least half of your appearance and therefore your sex appeal.
Act crazy. Laugh, buy one of those stupid lingerie suits that don't fit well. Tomorrow you can wear your Hemaat again. Smile, enjoy and shine. Connect with the other and above all love each other!
Amen
