Hey hey, the high word is out. We only have sex once a week on average! WHAT? That means that I have done my best in recent years to keep up with the so-called national average of two to three times a week. Completely unnecessary because that so-called average turns out to be completely wrong!
If we are to believe the research of the Wendy, eh. And even though I'm not a real research freak, I'll take this research to heart right away! I've had years of making choices. Choose between sex-with-my-partner-while-the-bags-growing-on-growing or just-going-to-sleep-without-fussing. Choose between (apparently) enjoying 12.5 hours or crawling straight between the acid rags 😉 .
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Do you recognize that? That you hit your bed and think to yourself that it is time for sex again, but immediately after that thought you are almost snoring? Isn't it also doable? After all that work, feeding and raising children, guiding with homework, doing the household and sports, spending quality time with your partner three times a week in bed and staying awake too?
I'm exaggerating, of course, because it's not that bad anymore, but what does bother me is that the subject of sex is so loaded that 'we' all act as if the average number of times sex is two to three times a week lies. While that turns out not to be the case at all. Nice to breed each other and make everyone feel guilty. We are good at that!
I can just imagine a birthday party where you hang out with your friends around a standing table (because well… you certainly don't discuss this with your parents at all). The subject of sex is discussed after the necessary glasses have been drunk. “Say, how often do you actually do IT?” “I (read:we) ? ohhhh…. at least three times a week!” Such an answer always started to rattle with me. Sex three times a week? How do they do that? Oh, what a bad partner I am. At that moment you see the men looking directly at their own partner. But now I finally know what that look has meant all these years!
It's a look-they-do-that-really look! Do you know them too?
An unnecessary look, because they really don't do it three times a week! They just don't dare to admit that they are often too tired for it. Just like anyone else who is in the same boat as you and me, with the biggest energy guzzlers of all time; growing children.
To be fair, with our own business, two growing kids aged 7 and 12, a house to keep clean and much more, we really don't get it three times a week. As much as we might want to. But luckily I now read that that is not a problem at all. Because everyone experiences sex in their own way. And as long as you're both happy, it's all good. Tell me something new.
What I do have doubts about as a result of this research is whether or not I should continue to work. Because women with a job masturbate more often, I read. Only with that I don't know yet whether they do that instead of having sex with their partner, or whether they do that 'on the side'. Another thing I can worry about in the coming years.
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